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14 Proven Tips to Maintain Positivity in Tough Times

Vivian BlakeVivian Blake
11 min read

Life has a way of throwing unexpected challenges our way, and during those challenging periods, maintaining a positive outlook isn't always straightforward. I completely understand this from personal experience. Even individuals who are generally upbeat and optimistic in their everyday routines can

Life has a way of throwing unexpected challenges our way, and during those challenging periods, maintaining a positive outlook isn't always straightforward.

I completely understand this from personal experience. Even individuals who are generally upbeat and optimistic in their everyday routines can find themselves slipping into negativity and a gloomy state when faced with a challenging week or a difficult month.

However, cultivating and holding onto a positive mindset can truly transform how you navigate these rough patches.

In this article, I want to share the most effective strategies and daily habits that have supported me over the last decade or more. These approaches continue to assist me in managing tough circumstances in a healthier, more constructive manner even today.

My sincere hope is that you'll discover at least a few gems here that resonate with you and make a real difference.

1. Embrace Your Emotions Fully and Accept Them as Valid

One of the key practices I've adopted to safeguard my mental well-being during hard times is to avoid suppressing or dismissing my true feelings.

Right after a tough event unfolds and I'm right in the thick of it, I might initially experience fear, anxiety, concern, anger, or a combination of these intense emotions. This is entirely natural and human.

By recognizing and validating these negative thoughts and emotions stemming from the situation, I can process the experience more swiftly and with less emotional distress than if I were to fight them off or pretend they don't exist.

This acceptance also paves the way for me to progress to the subsequent phase, where I focus on problem-solving or at least making incremental improvements to the current circumstances.

Therefore, start by affirming to yourself that it's perfectly fine to feel and think whatever comes up. That said, avoid dwelling excessively on these feelings for extended periods like days or weeks, as that can hinder progress.

2. Pose Constructive Questions to Shift Your Perspective

A straightforward yet powerful follow-up action to propel yourself forward involves asking yourself more empowering questions instead of the unhelpful ones that might naturally arise (I used to fall into this trap frequently myself).

These thoughtful inquiries can restore a sense of optimism, helping you uncover positive angles and interpretations of what's happening.

Here are some of my go-to questions that I rely on regularly:

  • What is at least one positive aspect or benefit hidden in this challenging situation?
  • What opportunity might this present that I haven't considered yet?
  • Will this issue still hold significance five years from today? Or perhaps even just five months ahead?
  • What single, actionable step can I take right now to begin reversing this situation?

Select one or several of these questions to ask yourself. This practice will guide you toward a brighter, more proactive mindset and help you outline a modest plan for actionable improvements in your current scenario.

3. Share Your Thoughts with a Trusted Confidant

Among all the advice in this guide, this stands out as one of the most impactful and frequently utilized by me personally.

Simply voicing your inner thoughts and emotions aloud can be incredibly liberating. It alleviates built-up stress, reduces anxiety, and eases the internal pressure that's accumulated.

Moreover, this open dialogue often reveals fresh viewpoints on your predicament.

In some cases, the mere act of a close friend or family member listening attentively allows you to vent, clarify your own thoughts, and reach insights independently.

On other occasions, the person you're talking to might offer guidance drawn from their own similar experiences, or collaborate with you to devise a practical next-steps strategy, steering you away from negative thought patterns.

4. Gather Reliable Information to Combat Uncertainty

To clear away the fog of vague fears, doubts, and anxious thoughts clouding your mind, take proactive steps to educate yourself through targeted research.

Engage in conversations with individuals who've navigated similar challenges, or dive into their books, articles, or podcasts. This will enable you to construct a clear, realistic path forward, outlining optimal actions and anticipated milestones along the way.

Such research might occasionally highlight unforeseen hurdles you hadn't anticipated. Yet, in my view, this is a minor drawback. Awareness of these potential issues equips you far better to address or mitigate them effectively, rather than groping blindly through uncertainty.

5. Cultivate Gratitude Through a Short Daily Practice

Admittedly, current circumstances might feel overwhelmingly harsh and unenjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are almost always elements in our lives worth appreciating. Intentionally focusing on gratitude is a proven method to reframe your perspective, elevate your mood, and boost your overall energy.

Even amid adversity, here are some basics I make a point to give thanks for:

  • Having three nutritious meals each day.
  • A secure shelter protecting me from harsh weather like autumn storms or winter chills.
  • Access to abundant, clean drinking water.

6. Reduce Exposure to Your Phone and Pessimistic Content

Staying informed about local and global events serves a purpose and can be beneficial.

That being said, excessive time spent endlessly scrolling through negative online content—or, based on my observations, glued to your smartphone in general—typically amplifies stress, heightens anxiety, and fills your mind with swirling pessimistic ideas.

Therefore, allocate a reasonable amount of time to news consumption, particularly avoiding an overload of downbeat stories. Similarly, impose limits on overall screen time, with special emphasis on mobile devices.

In my experience, implementing these boundaries leads to feeling noticeably lighter, more hopeful, and resilient—especially when personal difficulties coincide with broader negative global vibes or prolonged personal struggles.

7. Curate a More Uplifting Personal Environment

Minimizing intake from negative information sources is a solid start. But redirecting the time you've reclaimed into uplifting, encouraging alternatives amplifies the benefits significantly.

Seek out inspiring books, YouTube creators, podcasts, or other media that motivate you, soothe your spirit, and equip you with practical ideas for tackling life's obstacles.

Go further by intentionally redesigning your everyday surroundings to foster positivity. Reflect on the key relationships in your circle and their influence on your emotional state and resilience.

Since our closest companions profoundly shape our mindset, emotional responses, and ability to weather storms, consider these reflective prompts:

  • Who are the three most draining, negative influences in my social sphere?
  • Who are the three most encouraging, uplifting presences I connect with?

Dedicate some thoughtful time to strategize ways to decrease interactions with the pessimists and invest more quality time with those who energize and support you.

8. Embrace Outdoor Time and Nature's Healing Power

Personally, engaging in simple outdoor tasks like mowing the lawn or tending to garden chores never fails to leave me feeling revitalized and clearer-headed.

The same refreshing effect comes from a leisurely stroll through forested trails, along a seaside path, or any natural setting.

These activities sharpen my thinking, restore an optimistic lens, and the combination of fresh air plus physical movement replenishes my vitality.

9. Extend a Helping Hand to Others

This suggestion might seem unexpected when you're grappling with your own troubles and not feeling your best.

Yet, from what I've observed repeatedly, offering assistance to someone else during your own challenging phase can yield tremendous personal benefits.

It pulls me out of self-absorbed rumination, breaking the cycle of repetitive negative thinking.

Furthermore, if my situation evokes feelings of helplessness or victimhood, aiding another restores my sense of empowerment and competence.

The joy they express often contagiously lifts my spirits too. And acts of kindness frequently inspire reciprocity down the line.

Here are some straightforward methods to lend support:

  • Provide hands-on practical help with a task they need.
  • Share insightful advice drawn from your own lessons learned.
  • Offer a patient ear as they unload their burdens.
  • Deliver a heartfelt, specific compliment highlighting something meaningful or underappreciated about them.

10. Prioritize Presence in the Here and Now

Extract valuable lessons from bygone experiences. And thoughtfully prepare for upcoming days by crafting a weekly overview on Monday mornings, followed by concise daily to-do lists each dawn.

Once those preparations are complete, resist the urge to overanalyze past events or fret excessively about what lies ahead—particularly when already immersed in hardship—as this can intensify fears, worries, and gloom.

Aim to allocate just about 20% of your mental energy to reflections on history or forecasts of tomorrow, devoting the majority to fully inhabiting the present.

I've discovered that anchoring myself predominantly in the now greatly simplifies sustaining motivation, vitality, and access to uplifting emotions.

It also keeps me grounded in realistic, doable responses to adversities, facilitating tangible forward movement.

Should you notice your mind drifting into past regrets or future anxieties, gently realign by immersing in your immediate surroundings for a couple of minutes. Engage all your senses deeply:

  • Listen to the chirping birds or passing vehicles beyond your window.
  • Inhale the crisp fall breeze or the rich aroma of coffee percolating nearby.
  • Sense the warmth of sunlight, the patter of rain, or the gentle brush of wind against your skin.

11. Nurture Your Body's Core Needs

Amid turmoil, it's all too common to neglect the foundational pillars that underpin your daily functioning.

Overwhelmed, you might convince yourself there's no bandwidth for such basics, allowing them to slip your mind. Paradoxically, these are the moments when prioritizing them matters most for your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

I'm talking about essentials like nourishing meals, regular movement, and restorative sleep.

Though they may appear mundane or routine, these practices substantially ease the path to positivity.

Do your utmost, despite the chaos, to fuel yourself with wholesome foods, incorporate physical activity (even modest walks count), and protect your sleep routine.

12. Proactively Plan for Possible Bad News

Whether it's professional updates, health concerns, financial matters, family dynamics, or even issues with a beloved pet, anticipating unfavorable developments can be nerve-wracking.

Regardless of the specifics, I've repeatedly benefited from outlining a contingency plan or identifying a handful of immediate responses should the worst occur.

Examples include:

  • Steps to lessen the impact of the potential problem.
  • Researching how others successfully managed comparable scenarios.
  • Arranging your space with comforts, favorite items, and cherished loved ones for solace.

Frequently, these precautions prove unnecessary because the dreaded news either doesn't materialize or turns out far less daunting than imagined.

Even so, the exercise of planning proves invaluable: committing it to paper dissipates much of the anticipatory worry, freeing my mind to refocus on productive, enjoyable pursuits.

13. Reflect on Your Track Record of Overcoming Adversity

Whether you're freshly encountering hardship, entrenched in it, or bracing for its arrival, self-doubt can erode your confidence swiftly.

It's easy to overlook your proven history of resilience.

But let's state the truth: you've triumphed over difficulties before—and multiple times at that.

Reaffirm this reality to bolster your optimism. It encourages deeper breaths, a calmer demeanor, and recollection of past strategies that can be adapted effectively now.

14. Consider Guidance from a Professional Expert

If experimenting with a selection of these techniques over time fails to deliver the emotional shift or relief you're seeking, it's wise to explore personalized professional support.

Ongoing, tailored assistance from a qualified mental health specialist can catalyze profound, lasting change that self-help alone might not achieve.

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